5 Hot n Spicy Relationship Habits to Bring into 2025 and 5 to Curve...(Singles Edition Part 2)

Let’s dive right into Part 2 because today it’s all about you, my single lady! I’m absolutely in my spicy mood, and there’s no better time to talk about what you’re carrying into 2025 in your love life.

Whether you’re newly single, have been enjoying your solo journey for a while, or are preparing for the love you desire, this is your year to reflect, realign, and elevate. Let’s leave behind the habits that no longer serve you and embrace the ones that help you step fully into alignment with your values, desires, and faith.

No matter how long you’ve been single, there’s always room to grow, glow, and turn up the heat in your love life. So let’s get into it…5 Hot n Spicy relationship habits to take into the new year and 5 relationship habits to curve for good.

For Single Women: 5 Habits to Take into 2025

1. Clarity About What You Want in Love

Clarity About What You Want in Love It’s time to get crystal clear about what you want in a relationship. This isn’t about creating an impossible checklist of demands. It’s about knowing your non-negotiables, your must-haves, and the kind of partnership you truly desire. Are you looking for a relationship that leads to marriage, or are you open to seeing where things go? Do you value emotional vulnerability and open communication? If you don’t know what you’re looking for, how will you know when you’ve found it? This year, get clear about what you want in a relationship.

Do you want a partner who shares your faith? Someone who prioritizes open communication? When you have clarity, you’ll attract alignment.

Need help uncovering your “Vision of Love”? Book a 1 on 1 session with me, and let’s get you crystal clear on what you want.

2. Being Open to New Experiences

It’s easy to fall into a routine, especially if dating’s been feeling like a chore, but love often shows up in the most unexpected places. This year, commit to stepping outside your comfort zone. Say yes to a blind date if you’re comfortable with that, join a new social group, or even try a dating app if you haven’t before.

Being open doesn’t mean lowering your standards…it just means expanding your opportunities to meet someone who aligns with your desires. Let curiosity guide you this year.

3. Embracing Your Sexuality with Confidence

Your sexual energy is a powerful part of who you are, and it’s time to own it unapologetically. Whether you’re getting to know what brings you pleasure, unlearning shame-based narratives, or simply becoming more comfortable in your skin, this is your year to embrace your sexuality fully.

This doesn’t mean you have to be sexually active…it’s about creating a healthy, confident relationship with your desires and your body. When you understand and embrace your sensuality, you attract connections that honor and celebrate every part of you and this is where I can guide you from the sexual frustration you’ve experienced to the Sexual Liberation you desire.

Ready to Embrace Your Sexuality? Grab my book, 9 Things Women Should Ask a Man Before Giving Him Sex, and start owning your power today.

4. Practicing Discernment

Not everyone who expresses interest deserves access to your heart, mind, or body. Practicing discernment means trusting your intuition, setting boundaries, and only giving your time and energy to those who align with your values.

Pay attention to how someone treats you, not just what they say. If you notice what are red flags to you, whether it’s inconsistency, manipulation, or emotional unavailability, don’t ignore them. This year, commit to choosing connections that feel right from the start.

5. Building a Full Life

Your life doesn’t start when you meet “the one”, it’s happening now. This year, focus on creating a life that brings you joy and fulfillment on your own terms. Pursue your passions, deepen your friendships, and take steps toward your goals.

When your life is full and vibrant, the right partner will complement it rather than complete it. Let 2025 be the year you fall in love with yourself and the life you’ve built.

For Single Women: 5 Habits to Curve in 2025

1. Dating Out of Desperation

Stop saying yes to relationships just to avoid being alone. Desperation clouds your judgment and attracts connections that aren’t aligned with your values or goals.

This year, leave behind the fear of being alone and embrace the freedom of being selective. Love yourself enough to create the right connection instead of settling for the wrong one.

2. Accepting Less Than You Desire

Settling for “good enough” when you know you desire more is a disservice to yourself. Whether it’s tolerating inconsistency, lack of effort, or emotional unavailability, it’s time to raise your standards.

But first, you need to define your desires. When I ask women what they want, they often give me a list of expected qualities. But when I ask what they desire, they freeze up…as if having desires is something they’re not allowed to claim. This year, leave behind the fear of wanting more and get clear on exactly what you desire in a relationship.

3. Holding Onto Past Pain

Bitterness, grudges, and unresolved hurt will block your blessings every time. Carrying pain from past relationships only makes it harder to trust and connect with someone new.

This year, commit to fully releasing what no longer serves you. It’s one of the main reasons I’m currently separated. So whether that’s through therapy, journaling, or simply forgiving yourself and others, make peace with your past so that you can move forward in where you really wanna be.

4. Ignoring Your Own Sexual Needs

No, I didn’t say stop ignoring your sexual needs and go out here and just start having sex, I’m saying stop pretending that you don’t have them. Just because you’re a single woman of faith does not mean your sexual needs and desires pause until marriage. News Flash…they don’t! Your pleasure matters, and it’s okay to own that.

Don’t be the single woman who ignores and pretends sexual feelings aren’t real. Instead be the single woman who embraces her sexuality understanding The Most High made you fearfully and wonderfully and that includes being made with a sexuality. And it is to be embraced, not shunned.

This year, prioritize your needs. Know what you want, set up your boundaries and embrace yourself fully.

Take control of your pleasure. Grab my book, 9 Things Women Should Ask a Man Before Giving Him Sex and make 2025 the year you prioritize your (sexual) needs as a woman of faith.

5. Overthinking Every Interaction

Stop replaying conversations, overanalyzing texts, or obsessing over someone’s behavior. Overthinking drains your energy and keeps you stuck in your head instead of enjoying the moment.

This year, let go of the need to control or predict everything. Trust that the right person won’t leave you guessing. Give the gift of trust to yourself first by trusting you to make the best decisions for you, then you can require that from others in that same manner.

Conclusion

2025 is your year to step boldly into love, alignment, and confidence as a single woman of faith. Let go of what no longer serves you and embrace habits that ignite passion, prepare you for real love, and help you fall in love with your own journey before you fall in love with a mate. And remember, I’m right here to Navigate you in Love, Leisure and Pleasure.

Always Much Love,

Octavia E Vance (OEV) 💋 

P.S. Ready to take your love life to the next level for the New Year? Book a Help Me n My ‘Ships n SexLife Session now and let’s make 2025 your year of thriving in love, connection, and joy.